Thursday, November 18, 2010
The Christmas Gift
How often do we discount or mistreat others? And how often are we treated badly by others? And how often are the reasons for those conflicts a mystery, even to us?
The Christmas Gift by R. William Bennett is a charming story of a newcomer, a bully, and the benefits of doing the right thing. The lessons young Scott learns are good reminders to all of us who are tempted to react in kind rather than responding kindly.
As I’m preparing to spend time with family over the holidays, this book reminds me to look beneath the surface behaviors, to accept more than my part in disagreements, and to do the right thing. Sometimes I need that. We all have unhealed places in our lives and we all need a Christmas gift – throughout the year.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Do We Become More Negative with Age?
My mom has always been negative. She’s always been a victim. So why does it bother me so much now? Is it getting worse, or am I just growing weary of it? Hard to know…
I find that it doesn’t matter what I say to her. She finds a way to give it a negative spin. Last week we invited a young couple to lunch. They are our son’s age—late 20s—and he was one of my writing students. His parents recently died, so we invited them for lunch. I mentioned it to Mom. Her response: “Why would they want to have lunch with you? You’re too old.” Excuse me! I get along just fine with young people. We had a lovely time. But it stung to think that Moms first response was critical.
I could go on and on, but then I’d be negative too. Just once I’d love for my mom to delight with me. To rejoice with me. To celebrate me and what I do. I guess the good news is that her attitude has caused me to work extra hard a being positive with my son and DIL. When they come, we celebrate them. When we talk on the phone, I encourage them even when I know I’d have done it differently. I want them to know I’m on their side, no matter what.
So what do you do with a negative parent? And how do we avoid becoming one? I’ve tried correcting, cajoling, and countering Mom. She just gets upset. So now I just ignore here and move on. And meanwhile, I remember that I’m becoming the old woman I will be. So I’m developing an attitude of gratitude and a positive mindset. What do you do?
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Friday, November 12, 2010
Fiction Friday: Blind Sight
Blind Sight by James H. Pence is a fast-moving thriller with an unusual twist. Peter Bishop is frantic to protect his ten-year-old twins from a powerful cult and find their mother, who is in hiding. In desperation, he sends them to Thomas Kent, a college friend he hasn’t seen in years. Kent, already deep in his own grief, tries to avoid the favor, but soon is enmeshed in the life and death adventure.
The book races through several unlikely but thrilling plot twists in Texas and the bayous of Louisiana as Kent tries to protect the children, one of whom is blind, and find their mother with the cult hot on their trail. A cult that will stop at nothing to avoid exposure.
This book was a thoroughly enjoyable read. A little far-fetched, but hey, it’s fiction. And we’re looking for escape. Thanks to Kathy Carlton Willis for sending it.
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