Fear, Faith, and a Fistful of Chocolate
Are you a fearful person? Wait, before you answer, think about it. Fear comes in so many different forms that it can sometimes be deceptive. Sometimes it looks like worry or anxiety or "concern." Sometimes it looks control or obsessions or codependency. Sometimes it looks like guilt or loneliness. Yep, those are all forms of fear, and both men and women fall victim to this demon. As caregivers, it's easy to let all of these forms of fear as we juggle more balls than humanly possible and always feel we're falling short.
I know you don't want to spend your precious free time reading anything heavy, so here's a suggestion that's light and fun. With her own brand of off-beat wit and wisdom, inspirational humorist Debora Coty addresses heart needs of women worn down by everyday fears - financial, health, relationships, loss, pain, the unknown, and the what ifs in her latest book, Fear, Faith, and a Fistful of Chocolate: Wit and Wisdom for Sidestepping Life's Worries.
With fresh spiritual insight, Debora shares hope, true life stories, scriptural lifelines, and a few LOL's along with simple, practical tips for sidestepping fear with faith. And a fistful of chocolate! But don't be deceived. Her playful attitude packs a punch and will cause you to pause. Each chapter includes a page of questions that will help you personalize it and nail down some changed in behavior and attitude.
Fear, Faith, and a Fistful of Chocolate is a beautiful book. It's printed on high quality pink polka dot paper, making it a great gift book. Actually, I think I'll give a copy to my mom, who has a patent on fear. The book isn't as straightforward as I would like, but I have a feeling its light-hearted approach will be just right for her. It's also a nice size and very light in weight, which will also make it perfect for her.
To sweeten the pot, if you act in the next two days, you can enter to win a Kindle Fire and meet Debra at her Litfuse Facebook party on March 7. Just click on the picture below to enter.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Medicare and Identity Theft
I've spent my entire adult life refusing to use my Social Security number as ID for medical care. In the beginning it was difficult; providers felt they were entitled to use it. In recent years, it seems that providers have grown used to such objections. They simply create a dummy number for me.
Now I turn 65 in November, and guess what? My Medicare number is my Social Security number! I'm not happy about that at all, and especially after reading this article that claims “more than a quarter-million Medicare beneficiaries are potential victims of identity theft and hampered in getting health care benefits because the government won't issue new IDs.” Medicare’s position, it seems, is “Oh well…It’s only 284,000 people.” It’s too expensive and too time-consuming to change the numbers, so the poor beneficiaries face obstacles in obtaining care. What an outrage!
So have any of you or your parents had problems using your Medicare card? Have any of you experienced access problems? What have you done to protect your account or to get care? I'm a little worried!
Wednesday, October 03, 2012
Because You Care: Spiritual Encouragement for Caregivers
Are you a caregiver? Or perhaps you know one. If so, Because You Care: Spiritual Encouragement for Caregivers is a delightful little book by two caregivers: Cecil Murphey and Twila Belk. Cec has been caring for his wife with chronic illness since their marriage more than 50 years ago. Twila’s husband was diagnosed with a progressive rare muscle disease called “inclusion body myostitis” several years ago. They weave their faith-filled stories through 48 short pages of beautiful prose and photography.
I love the heart of both authors as they share their love for their spouses. As a burned out caregiver, I found hope and courage as I savored their stories. They gave me new ideas and new vocabulary for serving those I care for. Full of gentle wisdom, their personal stories of caregiving will help you face some of the ups and downs of your journey, including:
- Feeling guilty for doing too much, too little, or nothing at all
- Answering other’s well-meaning but insensitive questions
- Watching someone you dearly love suffer or die
This blog tour, sponsored by Kathy Carlton Willis Communications, is offering a prize basket that includes:
- Book—Because You Care: Spiritual Encouragement for Caregivers
- Book—Hope and Comfort for Every Season
- Hallmark journal, list pad, and memo pad stack
- Glade “Angel Whispers” candle
- Hershey’s Bliss dark chocolate
To enter the drawing, simply leave a comment here. Good luck!
Thursday, September 13, 2012
ObamaCare Cuts Will Lead to Seniors’ Deaths
We’ve all heard a lot about the pros and cons of ObamaCare. I'm sure we each have our opinions. But increasingly, we’re hearing about hidden or not-so-hidden aspects of the plan that will affect real seniors. Often the ones you and I care for. I recently wrote about the rationing that’s already happening in my five part series on my mom’s care.
Now Betsy McCaughey, Ph.D., author of The Obama Health Law: What It Says and How to Overturn It, documents that one way ObamaCare will save money is by paying less to hospitals and doctors. The government claims ObamaCare won’t hurt seniors – just those greedy providers. Hmmm, let’s think about that. If the government pays less to providers, the providers will have no choice but to provide less care. Although they are caring professionals, they, like all of us, can only provide the care they are paid for. They're businesses, not philanthropists. And for a fragile senior or person with a chronic illness, that can be harmful. Even fatal. McCaughey backs up these assertions with facts, figures, and historical data on hospital expenditures. I'm sure many of us can already back it up with real life. If you care for an elderly loved one or are over 65 yourself, consider this report when you vote in November.
Photo courtesy of Flickr Creative Commons/Truthout
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Self Care for the Care Giver
My husband has Parkinson’s Disease. He was diagnosed a couple of years ago, and sadly, it has progressed faster than either of us expected. Frailties I had not expected to occur for many years are already beginning to creep into our lives. That means that I need to do more than I want to or often can. Adding this to the responsibilities I have for Mom and my sister, I often feel that all I do is care for others. And yes, I often feel sorry for myself. Sometimes even resent what I've given up to be available to others.
That’s why I appreciate reminders like Angela Robb gives in her article, A Caregiver’s Journey. I appreciate her optimism and can-do attitude. I especially like what she says about readjusting your plans to do what you can do when you can do it. I've been thinking a lot about that lately. Thinking that even though we are spending a lot of money on much-needed, long-deferred maintenance on our home, we also need to do the traveling we’ve wanted to do while we can still do it. That will require major adjustments in my life and priorities, as well as in our finances. But really, we can’t put it off, can we?
What are you doing to care for yourself? What strategies do you use to serve well? What do you need to stop putting off?
Photo courtesy of Flickr Creative Commons/MikeBaird
Friday, August 24, 2012
Aftermath: Growing in Grace Through Grief
Thursday, August 09, 2012
God Knows Your Name: In a World of Rejection, He Accepts You
Labels: book review