Christmas Tree Memories
When DS was living with us, he loved decorating the tree and from the time he was old enough to help, he took on more and more of the responsibility. But now he’s gone and it hardly seems worth the effort. Except that he and dear DIL are coming home for Christmas and they will appreciate it. And expect it.
But this year, I took time to reflect on the meaning of the ornaments—the memories—and the task became so much more tolerable. We’ve always decorated only with ornaments that have special meaning. In the early years my dear MIL made most of our ornaments. She was a crafty one and every year had a new project – needlepoint, beading, lace, wood. She did good work and our tree always had a unique look to it. As I hung those on tree, I thought of her and all she did for us. Yes, sometimes she was annoying, but her heart was good and we miss her. After her death we inherited the traditional ball ornaments that she used on her tree. I had always steadfastly avoided purchased balls, but these are from the 40s and 50s. They remind me of ornaments we had on my childhood tree. Now they hold places on honor on the tree. Memories.
When DS was little, we made a photo ornament of him every year. As I carefully placed them on the tree, I remembered the joy and delight of my little one. He was so cute! Memories. Then came the vacation souvenirs. The reindeer from Montana; the whale from Hawaii; the ceramic animals and straw angels from Mexico; the turtle from the Cayman Islands…. Each one brought back fond memories of precious family times.
Last came the nativity scene. I placed it in its place of honor beneath the tree, surrounded by dozens of angels. Most of the angels also have a story. There are the small fabric angels from a church tea I used to attend. There are the lace angels made by dear MIL. And the lighted porcelain angel that MIL gave me the last year she was with us. So many memories….
We finished the tree, turned down the room lighting, and turned on the tree lights. The little white lights that remind me of Disneyland. The tree almost sang of love and memories Ah, Christmas….
Monday, May 28, 2007
Memorial Day
On this Memorial Day, I invite each reader to pause and thank God for the freedoms we enjoy in the United States of America. Memorial Day, originally called Decoration Day, was officially proclaimed on May 5, 1868 by General John Logan, national commander of the Grand Army of the Republic and was first observed on May 30, 1868, when flowers were placed on the graves of Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery. You can read more about it here.While Memorial Day was popular in the years around World War II, the traditional observance of Memorial Day has diminished over the years. Many Americans today have forgotten—or never knew--the meaning and traditions of Memorial Day. At many cemeteries, the graves of the fallen are ignored or neglected. Most people no longer remember the proper flag etiquette for the day. While there are towns and cities that still hold Memorial Day parades, many have not held a parade in decades. Some people think the day is for honoring any and all dead, and not just those fallen in service to our country.
My mother grew up in a farming town of about 800 in Kansas. It’s your idyllic small prairie town, complete with the town square featuring a fountain in the middle and a hip-high wall around the perimeter. Memorial Day has historically been one of the biggest holidays there, featuring a full weekend of events, beginning with a picnic and concert in the square on Friday evening. The high school holds an annual Alumni Banquet honoring all graduates from all years. Individual classes make a special attempt to gather on the five and ten year anniversaries.
I took Mom back for her 65th high school reunion a few years ago. The celebration had changed very little from my childhood memories when we would visit Grandma over Memorial Day.
The Friday before Memorial Day, the town was filled with families coming back for the holiday. It seems that even today, adult children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren return home for this weekend. We took her 92-year-old former office mate to the picnic with us, and even after being gone for decades, Mom still recognized a lot of people. On Saturday the town took on a festive atmosphere as people wandered around, visiting with one another. Throughout the town in cafes and meeting rooms, classes gathered for their alumni luncheons. Mom’s class of about 18 (including spouses) met in a tiny lunchroom and dined on sandwiches made with white bread, potato salad, and apple pie.
On Saturday evening, the high school gymnasium was turned into banquet hall, with a table for each graduating class represented. Mom’s class had two tables. Some of the younger classes had a whole section of tables. Refreshments at the “banquet” consisted of homemade finger foods, much to the dismay of those who remembered when they had been served “real food.”
On Sunday we were invited to the home of friends for a picnic. Three generations of extended family gathered and welcomed the Californians. I was a little disappointed in the food. Just like here, much of it was store-bought rather than homemade. But the fellowship was sweet and we enjoyed the day.
On Monday, bright and early, we joined the entire town at the cemetery. Everyone brought flowers to decorate the graves of just about everyone they knew—relatives, friends, neighbors. The VFW had a color guard, lots of speeches, and 21 gun salute honoring the war dead. The grave of very veteran boasted an American flag and the Masons had also decorated the graves of all of their members (just about everyone, it seemed).
Everyone should experience a small town Memorial Day. It will remind you to honor those who gave their lives for our freedom. And even those who served.
God bless our veterans and those now serving throughout the world.
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